You’ll Never Be Good Enough
Want to know the easiest way to be dissatisfied with yourself? Just start comparing yourself to everyone around you. There will always be someone who’s prettier, nicer, happier, healthier, etc.
In today’s society, it’s easy to get caught up in this game. Everywhere you look you’re confronted with pictures or videos of someone who looks like there isn’t a single hair on their head that’s out of place.
The bible is full of stories of people comparing themselves to others.
- In 1 Samuel Saul compares himself to David and pretty much dedicates a huge part of his life to trying to kill David because he can’t handle how much more successful David is.
- In Genesis 4 Cain kills his own brother, Abel, when his Abel’s sacrifice is accepted by God’s but Cain’s isn’t.
- In Genesis 37 Joseph’s brothers sell him into slavery because they hate that their father loves him more.
- In the New Testament Jesus’s disciples argued about who would be the greatest once they got to heaven.
I think it’s safe to say, humans have been feeling inadequate since the beginning of time. And it’s time to kick the habit.
You Don’t Know Me
(Just FYI, he says the F word in this song…one time, I think.)
The first thing you need to realize, is that the person you’re comparing yourself to, is a completely different person.
But she’s so skinny and she doesn’t even exercise.
But he’s so good at talking to people, he always fits right in.
But I work so hard for literally everything in life and she gets everything handed to her.
You’re right. Some people are lucky in certain areas. But guess what? So are you. Just because you wish you could be lucky in other areas, doesn’t mean you aren’t completely unlucky. Some people are born with the ability to run a mile in 5 minutes and some people are born to be able to lift really heavy things. That’s just how it is. If we were all the same, it’d be boring. Really boring.
Look At It This Way…
It’s all about perspective. One of my friends once told me that his brother shared with him that he was feeling like he had accomplished almost nothing in his life and it was making him feel really worthless. This person owns his own house, is on his way to having his master’s degree, and is in a successful relationship.
How could someone like that ever feel like they had accomplished nothing? To any normal person, it would seem like he’s completely on the right track. The problem was, he was comparing himself to his girlfriend who has already begun a successful career. In comparison, he felt behind.
This blew my friends mind because until then, he had looked at his brother as this content person who had his stuff together. He had no idea that his brother felt like he wasn’t accomplishing anything and didn’t even understand how it was possible because to him, it seemed like his brother was doing everything right.
What I’m getting at here is even the people we compare ourselves to, are comparing themselves to others. No one is content with what they’ve done because it will always seem like there’s someone out there who has done more than you.
Like I said, we’re all different and we have to realize that when setting our goals.
The Only Comparison You Should Ever Make
Someone somewhere once told me that the only person you can be better than, is the person you were yesterday.
Stop thinking about how much better than you everyone else is and focus on how much better you are than the person you were in the past.
Maybe you just started cleaning up your diet and you still haven’t been able to pass up free junk food at the office. Think about how your diet was before you even started caring. Think about how, although you have some things to work on, you’re still doing a lot better than you were in the past.
Maybe you just started exercising and it still takes you eleven minutes to run a mile. Think about how, when you started running, you couldn’t even run a mile without walking half of the time.
Every day, focus on doing one thing better than you did the day before. Don’t focus on doing one thing better than someone else you know. That person isn’t you, you can’t control them and you aren’t living their life.
This is why writing down goals and keeping track of things is so important. With things written down, you can go back and look at everything you’ve accomplished.
I keep a notebook of everything I do when I work out. That way, when I’m feeling particularly lazy and useless, I can make myself go back and see how far I’ve come from how I used to be. Sometimes you want to ignore what you’ve accomplished and just focus on what you haven’t yet accomplished. When it’s on paper, it’s pretty hard to ignore.
After I got back from my vacation I was feeling like I was pretty lazy and unhealthy so I made myself look back and write down three things I was doing better today than last year. After reading this post, I think you should do the same. It really made me see that I haven’t actually been sitting on my butt doing nothing for a year. In fact, you should comment with your three things and if you want…I’ll respond with mine.
Mine are all health related because that’s what I chose to focus on for the past year, but maybe you’ve tried to focus on something else like your spiritual health or your relationships with others. As long as you’re only comparing to yourself that works too!
So, what are three things you’ve improved on since last year? Let me know in the comments!